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November 5th, 2013
Loss can be devastating. It is important to let your friend know you are there for them; whether they need a shoulder to cry on or someone with whom to reminisce & laugh! Listen to them and allow them to confide in you. (Do not betray their trust in you.) Being supportive will prove your friendship genuine. Keep them grounded with gentle reminders of reality, but balance that with bright hopes for tomorrow! Keep them somewhat busy, yet give them just enough space to heal on their own. (And don’t judge their ways:) Bottom line… just be there!
October 20th, 2013
Real strength comes from facing life’s tough realities and realizing that blessings are ahead for you. First, be genuinely grateful for the gift of your life and focus on pleasant memories, rather than past sorrows. Then, allow yourself time to grieve, for your heart to heal. Pray for courage to face each day’s realities. Others depend on you to be there physically, emotionally and spiritually. You may experience stages of denial, anger and depression before acceptance. This is normal. With all life comes death. With loss comes pain. Strength grows from faith.
September 26th, 2013
Yes! And I advise viewing. I feel children deserve the option to view as well. With the donation of eyes, simply keep in mind the possibility of slight swelling in that area. During this time of year, we like to give. One of the ultimate gifts is the donation of human organs. There is surely a lifelong deep satisfaction in the hearts of families who make the choice to donate. My heart goes out to such families! I fully supported my wife’s wish to donate her organs… all of them! If you are on a waiting list to receive an organ, I hope your wish is fulfilled, not by the untimely death of an individual, but rather by the unselfish choice of his or her survivors. May we all be thoughtful in the giving, and thankful in the receiving, of such priceless gifts! Peace be with you.
September 15th, 2013
When writing an obituary, which should be done ahead of time of course, realize the only folks who will keep it are family members and close friends. Immediate family members are likely to keep it forever and may use it as a means to help introduce, or describe, that loved one to their new loves who never knew the one who died. For example, I have a son who’s engaged. His mom’s obituary will hopefully help his fiancee feel as if she knew her would-be mother-in-law. When I wrote my wife’s obituary, I wrote it for the future generations! I didn’t write it to impress . . . I didn’t write it to tell history . . . I wrote it to precisely describe or introduce!
July 17th, 2013
We plan trips, plan our finances, plan for holidays and plan what’s for dinner, but when it comes to life’s big decisions, it can be easy to “put it off.”
At Wilkirson-Hatch-Bailey, we meet with people every day who are planning a special service to honor their loved one who has passed.
We also meet with individuals, couples and families who choose to pre-plan so that on the occasion of their death, when emotions are high, they are not burdened with making decisions such as what casket to purchase, what songs to play and where to be buried. A person does not have to already know the answers to questions like these in order to come in and pre-plan.
We offer “short form” planning guides that assist in the process of pre-arranging.
By pre-planning your own funeral, you are able to make your wishes known. You also can involve your family in making arrangements for your memorialization and relieve you and your loved ones of future financial responsibility.
Generally, funeral plans consist of a two-step process: making the funeral arrangements and funding the cost of the pre-arranged funeral. Selections fall into two categories: the services of a funeral professional and funeral merchandise.
Funeral services include professional services of a funeral director and staff, transportation services, embalming and other preparation, facilities for visitation, funeral ceremony, funeral vehicles, pastoral services, music and grave opening and closing.
Funeral merchandise includes casket, urn or both; an outer burial container; flowers; acknowledgment cards and transfer containers.
Our funeral planning professionals can assist you with your selections and provide a complete explanation of selections and costs.
We’ll help you to put your decisions in writing so there’s no doubt about your expressed wishes in a way that’s simple to understand and not overwhelming. Your loved ones will not be left asking “Did we do the right thing?,” “Did we spend too much …. or too little?,” “Is this what he or she would have wanted?,” and “Did we forget anything?”
Instead, pre-planning offers peace of mind and alleviates financial burden in the future.
Call us today so that we may help you with this important decision.
July 4th, 2013
This Fourth of July, we might find ourselves barbecuing, congregating with loved ones and
enjoying our precious free time. But July Fourth is also a time to step back, take stock
and appreciate the deep freedoms we enjoy every day.
In honor of Independence Day, here are some of the most inspirational quotes on freedom
from great thinkers throughout history.
“Our greatest happiness does not depend on the condition of life in which chance has
placed us, but is always the result of a good conscience, good health, occupation and
freedom in all just pursuits.” Thomas Jefferson
“This, then, is the state of the union: free and restless, growing and full of hope.
So it was in the beginning. So it shall always be, while God is willing, and we are
strong enough to keep the faith.” Lyndon B. Johnson
“For what avail the plough or sail, or land or life, if freedom fail?” Ralph
“You have freedom when you’re easy in your harness.” Robert Frost
“Those who won our independence believed liberty to be the secret of happiness and
courage to be the secret of liberty.” Louis D. Brandeis
“Only our individual faith in freedom can keep us free.” Dwight D. Eisenhower
“Freedom is nothing else but a chance to be better.” Albert Camus
“For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that
respects and enhances the freedom of others.” Nelson Mandela
March 18th, 2013
Nearly 2.5 million people per year have their identity stolen after their death!
There are a couple things you can do to ensure your loved one doesn’t become a victim of identity theft. Tone down the news obituary in the paper – do not give up too much information. Yes, you want to be personal and informative but don’t give away too much.
-Notify all 3 credit reporting agencies of the deceased and have them put a “deceased” flag alert on the account.
-Have someone at the deceased one’s house at all times. Especially during visitation, memorial or service.
-Contact the Social Security Administration directly and let them know about the death and having them flag the person’s social security number as inactive.
-Make sure identity documents are secure and kept away in a safe or a safety deposit box.
Post death identity theft is one of the fastest growing trends of scam artists in the United States today. Armed with your personal information, these scam artists can ruin your family’s credit by applying for credit cards and using your loved one’s credit.
Identity theft is the last thing you want to deal with while grieving over a loss. Remember, it is better to be safe than sorry.
February 13th, 2013
Everyone will experience grief in their lifetime. However, everyone processes grief in a different way. Some devote time to work to keep them busy, some use a support group or private counseling service, but there is no easy way to get through it. People also express their grief differently. Some may want to talk it out, while others are more prone to closing off.
There will be times when you can take your mind off of your loved one, but there will also be times when things remind you of them – a restaurant, a football game, or his or her favorite song. Allowing yourself to feel your emotions is the first step towards accepting the passing of a loved one. Recognize what you are thankful for and what God has still blessed you with. Focus on what you do have, and not what you don’t have. Cherish the good times, and be thankful for the time you had with them.
Release your pain in a journal or confide in a friend. Try writing your loved one a letter. Having faith is the best healer. Just remember, the Lord will never give you anything you can’t handle.
In my opinion, the best way to overcome grief is through helping others. Giving back to your community not only gives you something to do that will distract your mind, but it surrounds you with friends and loved ones who can help you as you go through the grieving process. Would your loved one have wanted you to spend the rest of your life dwelling over their absence, or rather keep them alive in your heart?
January 25th, 2013
“You may delay, but time will not.” – Benjamin Franklin
We all plan for many of life’s obstacles. Things like fire insurance, health insurance and auto insurance consume a lot of our time and money. Thing is, we tend to fail in planning for the inevitable – death.
Our main goal is to eliminate as much stress from your family as possible. When your affairs are prearranged, it leaves more time for your family to cope with the loss. There are over 40 questions on the death certificate alone. Chances are you won’t want to be gathering all that information while grieving over the loss of a loved one.
Nowadays, people are so busy with their daily routines that they fail to plan for the inevitable. The monotony and cyclical nature of our busy schedules can sometimes be consuming, but we must not lose sight of the things that are truly important.
Bob Johnson, Pre-need Director here at the funeral home, knows all about the do’s and dont’s of preplanning. Some advantages of preplanning include being able to arrange your expressed wishes, while relieving your loved ones from the burden of selecting funeral home goods and services, it could even meet Medicaid/SSI requirements, which might offer the flexibility to change funeral homes and beneficiaries if needed, along with freezing the cost of merchandise and services, and most importantly, providing peace of mind for you and your family.
Having seen so many people affected by the loss of a loved one, Bob Johnson realizes how important it is to make prearrangements by taking the burden off of a loved ones family. People consider this to be a sense of accomplishment, knowing that a loved ones family will not have to worry about the arrangements or the challenge of paying for it.
December 11th, 2012
The funeral service industry is constantly changing, evolving as we trend, adapting to our customer’s wants and needs.
One of the biggest trends right now is “going green” for your loved one’s funeral service. Whether the deceased was environmentally friendly or not, keeping our environment safe is becoming a major issue. Here are a few ways to “go green” when it comes to funerals.
Recyclable paper for the programs – not only does it save the environment, it is also a more cost effective purchase!
Flowers from organic local growers – this is a great way to be environmentally conscious and the local growers benefit from your business.
Local and organic foods and refreshments – benefits you and the local growers the same way organic flowers does.
Planting an urn with a seed – a seed is planted in the urn with the ashes and a plant grows from the seed. Place it on your mantle as a constant reminder of your loved one. With death, comes new life.
Many people also choose to personalize their loved one’s funerals. Another way to save the environment is through the use of bequeathed items like the jewelry that the deceased wears for an open casket.
The decisions you make add a personal touch to your loved one’s funeral, no one service is ever truly the same as another. With the constant growing trends in the funeral service industry, it is ultimately up to you to decide on how you best want to remember your loved one.