They don't have to die.
April 2nd, 2008
I just wanted to point out something very important; they don’t have to die (‘they’ being someone – anyone – our ‘loved one/s’) in order for us to experience real grief. I mean… grief is caused by many things other than the death of a loved one. For example; divorce… Yesterday I said that I want my wife back – well, someone having gone through divorce could also say ‘I want my wife back’ – you see what I’m saying… So if you hear someone say they’re not interested in this conversation, because it’s just about death and grief, set ‘em straight – it’s about grief no matter what caused the grief. (Plus, it’s not all gonna be about grief – we’ll talk about other related matters too, but mainly it’s about real life – I’m talking real life!) Just think about all the things which cause grief, besides death… there’s divorce, loss of job, bankruptcy, what about loss of your dream – boy, we know that can be a big one, but I bet most of us don’t even realize that’s grief – oh, what about the loss of your dream for your child – there’s another one that can be really big. There are so many real life issues which cause us grief. So invite a few of your friends or family members to join in on this conversation – it’s truly for everyone!
(If you’ve read this first, please scroll down as you should really read the ‘welcome’ first – then work your way forward so you’ll be caught up.)
April 3rd, 2008 at 9:26 am
Thanks for pointing out that grief is not only related to death but the loss of many things in life, including dreams.
April 10th, 2008 at 3:46 pm
Yes, my wife and I had our dreams dashed when we were unable to have children. I didn’t really process it as a loss, but my wife and I went through the stages of grief (anger was a biggy). It really strengthened our relationship and made us think about what was really important in life. My story has a happy ending though. We have been blessed with two beautiful daughters through the miracle of adoption.