Today's the day
June 5th, 2009
Today is the second anniversary of Yvonne’s death. It’s amazing how memories come flooding my mind and heart. I can remember so much – it’s hard to believe I’ve actually been through ‘that’! But we gotta just keep putting one foot in front of the other. On these special days, I wanna make ‘em special in some way – are you like that? It seems wrong to treat it just as any other day – it’s not just any other day – it’s a day for special memories. Of course I’ll go out to the cemetery – not sure what else – probably out for a nice dinner – a nice, casual dinner. Perhaps some of you have an anniversary coming up, or perhaps you’ve just had one – how do you handle those special days – what works for you? Do you plan something, or do you wait to see what you feel like doing? I wish you’d share what works…
June 5th, 2009 at 6:25 pm
It’s been 27 months since my dad died and some days it seems like just yesterday. The memories can hit anytime, anywhere. I was in the bookstore today trying to avoid all the father’s day cards and gifts but still saw a sign that brought the memories and tears to my eyes. I am seriously thinking about buying a father’s day card this year and writing in it all the things I would like to tell my dad if he was still here. If nothing else I think it would make me feel less lonely for him.
The last few years of my dad’s life the only thing that he really liked was sweets – especially chocolate and Dr. Pepper. So on the anniversary of his death, his birthday, father’s day – I remember him by eating a chocolate bar and drinking a Dr. Pepper. I still miss him, but it helps bring him just a little bit closer in my heart.
June 11th, 2009 at 1:37 pm
Hello Hatch,
I read your comments, and they are so similar to the way I feel about the loss of my wife to breast cancer on October, 15, 2008.
Her birthday is tomorrow, and I am planning some special things for her, but it is not easy.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I can really relate to them. It will be 8 months on Monday since I lost Denise, yet I am still lost also.
Sincerely,
Mike Linch
June 14th, 2009 at 6:57 pm
I’m so glad to hear from both of you. I beleive we’re correct in marking the day by doing something special – something that helps us remember the good times – something we enjoy doing… It’s important!
June 26th, 2011 at 10:40 pm
I don’t do anything special to mark the ending of my spouse’s life. I just get by…I get busy….I go on…. I don’t spend time on the date of his passing by reflecting on the good days when that date and his lengthy illness only brings me grief. I do however, celebrate his life by honoring him with various tributes. I was once told losing a loved one never stops hurting, but you get stronger. God wants us to go on and I struggle everyday to do so and only by the grace of the Lord I have gone on. It has been 7 years…and the heartache is real, but life does go on and each of us can survive and make our lives better than it was before through Christ as our Savior….”just saying”..