What if…
May 20th, 2010
What if your in-law dies, someone with whom you were very close, and your spouse’s family arranges for a service that’s nothing at all like what you would have – perhaps so much so, that you’re beyone dissappointed – your a little mad… But you have no say, because you’re (just) the in-law… I actually have a dear friend (in another city) who’s going thru this right now. Her mother-in-law died just this morning – they’re gonna cremate and have a very simple service, but my friend would prefer a more tradtional service. Well… I say let ‘em do it their way, and then you have a service of remembrance, which you control! It could be an intimate gathering with very close friends – perhaps even over lunch. It could be that you actually go all out and rent a ‘party’ room somewhere and ‘entertain’ a larger group of extended friends and family. It could be a time set aside where you simply, but very reverently kneel in a church all by yourself. Or light a candle and look at old pictures. Or whatever… be creative – do what works for you. (I suggest you not do something big unless you have your spouse’s blessing!) When it comes to ‘funerals’… there’s really no right or wrong.
What ideas do you have, or what have you known others to do who found themselves in this position? I wish you’d share some of your thoughts on this – it’s a very important subject and this ‘conversation’ would surely help a lot of people!
