’til death us do part
October 30th, 2011
I attended the (beautiful) wedding of a dear friend last evening. Ever since my wife died, I kinda gasp when I hear the minister say ’til death us do part. It’s still – after four yrs – just so hard to believe that I’m no longer married! I’m not single. I’m freakin widowed!! So why don’t I date? Why am I not already re-married? Because I still feel married. Because I still feel committed to my (now deceased) wife. Because I desire simplification, not complication. Because I desire clarity, not games (some people play). Because I desire pleasantness, not drama (that appears in so many relationships). Because I’m drawn more to Christ who strengthens & comforts me than to romance, though I will admit it would be nice to have companionship, you know… Perhaps I should get that puppy I’ve been thinkin about! I know pups are man’s best friend & that they love unconditionally, much like our good Lord:) Hmmm…
December 21st, 2011 at 1:27 pm
Hatch, I’ve always wondered how people who have been happily married for a couple of decades or more, and lose a spouse, can remarry so quickly. It seems to me, after a decades-long marriage to your soul mate, coupled with the speed at which years seem to come and go, four years is a relatively short period of time to be expected to remarry…or even date. I’ve been single (as in “unmarried”) by choice for over 12 years and choose not to date for most of the same reasons you mention here. Now, when people ask me “why”, I can refer them to your post for an eloquent answer.
December 21st, 2011 at 2:03 pm
thank you, that’s kind of u to say, Merry Christmas Melissa